Positive Relationship

HKU SPACE Community College ???????????? Todays docket ? After this class, you be expected to know I. The features of a healthful kinship II. How to initiate interactions III. How to enrich a relationship How end you apply all one of the elements to improve relationships in your life? There are questions for your self-importance-reflection 2 I. Features of healthy relationship 1. Genuineness (Rogers, 1980) ? Revealing your true self and breed to be honest. ? More than absence of lying openness and authenticity are signifi nominatet facets. 3 I. Features of healthy relationship 2. Unconditional positive wait on (Rogers, 1980) ?Warm acceptance of each former(a)s personhood. ? Positive responses not because of any conditions or reasons. ? , ? ? ? ? ? ? , ? ? ? ? ? I would love you most if you become the beaver among your classmates. 4 I. Features of healthy relationship 3. Empathy (Rogers, 1980) ? Ability to experience another(prenominal)s perspectives, feelings, ideas and emotions. ? Feel what the others feel, macrocosm able to put yourself into others place. 5 I. Features of healthy relationship 4. En enjoymentments of joy and up. ? Feeling of energized. ? Feeling better emotionally after conflict each other. ? Feeling 6 I. Features of healthy relationship . Self-disclosure ? As great deal reveal more of the hidden selves, a powerful basis for self-assurance and understanding can be formed. 7 I. Features of healthy relationship 6. reliableness ? ordure rely on each other. ? The feeling that you can count on the other to treat you fairly, and this is reciprocated. 8 ? Codependency??? ? ? ? Codependency is NOT one of the features of healthy relationship. Harmful to the parties involved in the relationships. Codependents feel compelled to help others. They are (excessively) responsive to the needs of the world to the exclusion of their own needs. ?Do you always subdue to please or help others to an extent that you may hurt yourself and others? 9 I. Features of healthy relationship 7. High self-esteem ? ? Enable one to hit out positively to others. I am ok, you are ok. 10 Self-reflection ? ? ? ? ? ? ? dissolve you a lot submit your true self to others? Do you like a person just because s/he does you groovy favors? Can you much empathize with others? Can you often disclose yourself to others with ease? Do you often assure lots of fun when interacting with others? Do you have someone whom you can depend on in your life, if not, any possible reasons?Do you have in mind that I am ok, others are ok too? 11 II. Initiating Interactions 1. 2. 3. 4. Managing start impression Tolerance, Acceptance and Appreciation Overcoming shyness accessioning spate 12 1. Managing first impressions ? You have only one chance to leave a first impression to other lot. On the other hand. ? Be open to your first impression on others. ? Al confused time and pastime to verify your first impression. 13 2. From Tolerance, Acceptance to Apprec iation ? Tolerance of people who are different is a worthy, basic goal of interpersonal relations. mixer Categorization (For instance, French) ?Stereotyping (Stereotypic labels towards French, such as romantic, stylish, dirty) ? Prejudice (negative attitudes towards French) ? Discrimination (unfair treatment towards French) 14 ? 3. Overcoming shyness ? ? Move beyond passiveness and inaction Start with teentsy behavioral changes ? Sincere smile to your classmates ? Say hi or good morningto classmates 15 4. Approaching people ? ? Looking for approachability cues. ? Approach someone when he/she is in a hurry, involved in other issues? ? Or when they are waiting for a class to start, sit exclusively and looked open? Checking for approachability. Can I talk to you for 5 mins? ? Are you finicky right now? 16 Self-reflection ? ? ? ? Do you judge a person immediately based on the first impressions? Do you often wrong people based on their social categories? Do you often agitate others because you never check for approachability? Do you often find it severe to converse with others? 17 III. How to enrich a relationship 1. Realistic scene of relationships ? No one is perfect, neither are relationships ? I expect I would always be happy in the relationship. 18 2. Sensitivity ? Having an cognizance about the perceptions and perspectives of others ?You sense that your friend is a bit unusual today, whence offers concerns and/help. 3. Appreciation ? Do you often deliver sincere compliments to people around you? 19 4. Little act of kindness ? ? ? Not time-consuming favors but brings significant joy Induce a helping and warmth atmosphere The effects usually have been overlooked Demonstrate a little act of kindness to the person next to you NOW. 20 5. self-assertiveness ? Maintain ones legitimate rights and expressing thoughts and feelings in nonthreatening ways. Decline others requests assertively without feeling guilty ? ? I cant help you this time, I need to finish some other of the essence(predicate) things. 21 6. Negotiation skills ? dates is NOT a matter of right or wrong but is only caused by difference in opinions. v Styles of managing conflict (Putnam, 1990 Thomas, 1988, cited in Weiten &038 Lloyd, 2000) ? 22 ? (1) Avoidance ? ? low concern for self and other People who prefer this style believe that ignoring a task will make it go away Low concern for self, extravagantly concern for others Accommodator feels uncomfortable with conflict High concern for self, low concern for others Competitors possibly turn conflict into a win-lose situation ? (2) try-on ? ? (3) Competition ? ? 23 ? (4) Compromise ? ? Moderate concern for self and others Compromisers may give up something so both can have partial derivative satisfaction. High concern for self and others Involves a sincere effort to find a solution that will maximize the satisfaction to both parties Conflict is viewed as a mutual problem to be solved as effectively as possible 24 ? (5) Collaboration ? ? ? 7. Supportiveness What is the most appurtenant utterance or gesture you have ever met? Empathy is important ? communicatory communication ? Cry if it makes you feel better. I will be at that place for you. ? ? Nonverbal ? a hug or a touch at shouldersJust borrow your ears patiently ? Empowering the person I know you have been absolute and tough. I believe that you can pass through the hard time. 25 8. Dealing with difficult people If one of your group members doesnt show much effort on the group project (e. g. , often lately for the project meetings, submit work late), how can you deal with him/her? 26 be assertive ? Being patient, giving people more than one chance, and organism empathic ? Change your reality just being she was short-tempered doesnt mean its going to ruin my day ? 27 Self-reflection ? ? ? Can you express yourself truly while respecting other persons rights?Do you know how to solve conflicts with others successfully? Do you often show support to others when they are in need? 28 Work on your relationships with the knowledge. Its only YOU who can bring about the betterments. 29 References Hanna, S. L. , Suggett, R. , &038 Radtke, D. (2007). Person to person Positive relationships simulatet just happen (5th ed. ). Upper Saddle River, NJ Prentice-Hall. Rogers, C. (1980). A way of being. Boston, MA Houghton Mifflin. Weiten, W. , &038 Lloyd, M. A. (2000). Psychology applied to modern life margin at the turn of the century (6th ed). Stamford, CT Wadsworth. 30